May 30th, 2012
There’s still a little tension, but…
The kids are okay. And right now, that’s my main concern.
As for me, well…it’s too early for me to really assess what or how I am feeling. A good night of sleep helped, thanks to sleeping pills. So I do feel rested this morning, although the Tech Guru says he didn’t sleep well. See? Pills can be a good thing from time to time.
Today I just want to sort of decompress and sort things out in my head. Or maybe actually not think about anything right now, not out of avoidance but because I want to be clear-headed and calm, rather than emotional. And that requires some distance from yesterday and some return to what passes for normal around here.
I do have to say, though, that arguments on that scale are INCREDIBLY rare. That’s just not how we roll around here and I think that’s what makes it all the more upsetting to everyone involved. In 15 years of being together and 10 years of marriage, I can count on one hand the arguments we’ve had on that scale. Actually, I think this was the worst one. We’re just not an arguing couple. We’re pretty content.
To be fair, I think there’s a lot at play here under the surface, chief amongst them, we all need a break. Stress can definitely trigger overreactions to things. Arguments have a way of highlighting truths but they also bring things that are simmering to a fast boil. And I think there are a lot of things to deal with: a getaway. The way the Tech Guru handles the children. The way I handle my own feelings of dependency and anger.
That’s as far as I want to go with it here…but, whatever needs to get dealt with, will get dealt with.
- I Go To Sleep (lonelyangel75.com)
- How to End an Argument (coachingpinboard.wordpress.com)
- I’m Right, You’re Wrong: Now With New Rules (motherhoodinnyc.com)